I am quite
busy right now. So, Eiman just wanna share this article. Artikel apa ya?
Hahaha... Tak sure sangat artikel ni myth or fact. Eiman pun tak tahu
artikel ni boleh relate tak dengan hubungan lelaki vs lelaki and
perempuan vs perempuan. Hahaha... Eiman just ambil bahagian-bahagian
yang Eiman rasa important. Check it out!
Eldest
Child + Eldest Child @ Only Child = Usurpation of Power
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Actually, eldest child and the only child
ni banyak berkongsi the same characteristics. Perfectionists and always drive
them be in the front line especially membabitkan perkara yang besar. The
attribute of leadership yang tinggi sometimes gonna make both of them nak
tonjolkan siapa yang lebih berkuasa. Always and always monopolize any
situations and sometimes bersikap dominant in a relationship.
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Recommendation: Try to be lenient in
everything is really appreciated. Kurangkan sikap acquisitive dalam diri and
learn how to compromise and tolerate with each others. Lihat, teliti and kaji
arah tuju and roles of each others in the relationship.
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Eldest
Child + Middle Child = Paradox
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You as the eldest child have to admit that
pasangan kau orang has the best characteristics in defending a relationship;
If pasangan kau orang adalah middle child. However, middle child has to
accept the fact that usually the eldest child is a paradox (kenyataan yang
kelihatan bercanggah tetapi ada kebenarannya). Middle child kebiasaannya has
the attribute of compromising and tolerating. Gemar berbincang semua perkara
even that thing tu sangat simple. Though, have to be careful because middle
child always and suka memendam perasaan.
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Recommendation: A well discussion and
consensus decision-making is really important here sebelum membuat sebarang
keputusan. Make sure to share and dive into each others untuk mengenali dan
memahami hati dan perasaan pasangan. If you as the eldest child; curahkan
sepenuhnya kasih sayang and sometimes have a surprise by giving present
because middle child ni kurang mendapat kasih sayang dan perhatian daripada
keluarganya.
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Eldest
Child + Youngest Child = The Happy Couple
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Usually, this pair is considered as an
ideal couple (ada pros and cons serta combinations yang cukup tepat). Eldest
child kebiasaannya terdedah dengan prinsip, pengalaman hidup dan perancangan
masa hadapan yang teratur. The youngest child akan memainkan peranannya untuk
support any of kejayaan pasangannya. If the eldest child is a girl; she will
have sifat keibuan yang sangat tinggi. If the youngest child is a boy; he
really needs kehangatan kasih dan sayang.
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Recommendation: Never ever take an
advantage keatas pasangan masing-masing (especially the youngest child). Amalkan
sikap bertoleransi (bertolak-ansur) dan bersepakat. Sometimes, the youngest
child will be terlebih manja dan suka memerintah (command). As for that, the
eldest child should be in a diplomatic way dalam setiap perbuatan dan
communications.
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Middle
Child + Middle Child = Chaotic
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Both of this middle child lebih suka
pendamkan perasaan masing-masing dan gemar to avoid themselves in getting
into any of discussion dari dua hati as they think that their ideas will be
totally rejected. Totally a defeatist. Mereka lebih senang retrieving other’s
commands and opinions. Really do take care of perasaan orang lain wisely
walaupun ada kalanya mereka ni suka cakap lepas (out-spoken).
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Recommendation: Try to use any other mediums
contohnya SMS, Whatsapp, Wechat, e-mail and so on; If you find out any
difficulties in communications face-to-face. Luahkan rasa hati. Both need to
believe and menghormati antara satu sama lain (especially regarding
opinions). Compliments, hugs and kisses juga perlu sebagai tanda kasih dan
sayang.
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Middle
Child + Youngest Child = Harmony & Peaceful
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The middle child will have the attribute of
passive. As for the youngest child, lebih terdorong untuk bersikap social.
However, both of them saling menyokong dan memerlukan antara satu sama lain. Even
though the youngest child sering bersikap manja but they somehow will give
and show kasih sayang yang tak terbagi to the middle child.
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Recommendation: Don’t ever assume
everything tu perkara yang mudah dan remeh-temeh. Try to avoid memperlekehkan
pendapat or tindakan pasangan even it
is kind of out-of-mind. Who knows, maybe it could work properly. Berusaha
untuk tonjolkan kelebihan pasangan. Share in every single thing.
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Youngest
Child + Youngest Child = Disaster
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Completely not a compatible combination at
all. Boleh dan akan timbulkan lots of problem later on. Both of them ingin
menonjolkan diri and would never back off. Boleh cetuskan a disaster situation
disebabkan tiada jalan penyelesaian (masing-masing keras kepala).
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Recommendation: Try to be a good listener
untuk pasangan. Bersikap open-minded and berusaha to solve and settle the
leakages of communication. Saling ingat-mengingati as to avoid misleadings or
misinterpretations.
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Mungkin ada kesahihannya regarding this article, but somehow jangalah jadikan this article sebagai satu halangan untuk teruskan hubungan yang dah sedia ada. Jadikan panduan, bukan arah tuju.
"The in between of two guys. Both are friends. Best friends."
_EimanHazdy_
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